May 12, 2003
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Can We Just Be Friends?
Yesterday, one of the sailing club guys and I went to the boathouse to work on the boats. I spent a lot of time on the ground with him, and learned a lot about wiring.
Most of my friends are guy-friends. Normally, I don’t think about it, but every now and then it bothers me. I just feel like women-company sometimes. Thing is, every time I ask some of my women friends if they want to do something like renting a kayak at the state park or skating at the University rink, they say they’re too tired, or they don’t have $. Yet, when they ask me if I want to do something, it’s usually to go to the mall where they spend above and beyond what could have gone towards purchasing a really good set of blades. They also never tire of trying on different clothes or sampling makeup and perfume. I find clothes shopping with someone tedious and tiring, as our tastes usually differ.
One time, I did convince a girlfriend to go to the park, but once we were in the car, she insisted she was hungry and hadn’t eaten lunch yet. She suggested a picnic, so we ended up spending $ on food at County Market, and eating instead. So much for hiking. My dog was unhappy about it, as he spent most of the time tied to the picnic table.
Who cares that all my friends are guys? Well, it bothers me because I’m married now. I know Matt trusts me, but I know it bothers him a little sometimes when I go on camping trips with them, because I think he thinks they won’t look out for me the way he does. Plus, I have had a few psychos get mad at me because I didn’t tell them I was married. I didn’t think it was important, as I certainly didn’t plan on bonking them. I guess they were. I guess it would have been more apparent if I’d wear my wedding ring more often, but I hate wearing jewelry when I’m sailing.
For all my readers who are having guy problems (and I mean serious guy-problems, where a guy is abusing you emotionally or physically, blaming you for things you never did and weren’t your fault), I wish you better days and better men. Here is something my dad told me once, when I was in an abusive relationship. It’s a Thai proverb:
they say you put fertilizer pee to the post
even better than pee on that guy
some day you might grow a mushroom a fungus able to eat
you pee on that guy you get nothing
rot nam to nai
Comments (5)
Hey, yo, hey, whoa! When were you an in abusive relationship? Man…cousin know nothing. Oy. Odd quote. Yet it makes sense.
I hope the guy that you were with in that abusive relationship recieved help.
I’m glad your husband trusts you with all your guy friends.
I’ve never gone camping.. well not like in a tent or anything. I stayed in a cabin in 6th grade, it was a whole field trip thing.. but it wasn’t like I actually had to put up a tent and start a fire and stuff.. I think that’d be fun.
I love ya!
Wow, I never knew you were in a abusive relationship. I’m glad that you got out of it and are now okay.
I haven’t been camping either. I want to, but I’m afraid that I’d get lost or something.
I didn’t know that Nanay tatted. Not that I even now what that is.
Love, lor
most of my friends are guys too.
Well it seems that I have no friends, they all live away and a few are girls but the ones I talk to on a day to day basis are guys and like you said, if I wasn’t friends previous to the marriage he thinks the guys have alterior motives.