December 31, 2003

• Every Woman Should Have

  There's this quote that goes around, and every now and then a girlfriend sends it to me. I know she means well, but I don't like it as I don't agree with a lot of the suggestions for what I, as a woman, should have.
  

  A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
  . . .one old love
  she can imagine
  going back to. . .
  and one who reminds
  her how far she has come. . .

  I have one love, and he is all I need. My old "loves" weren't loves at all, even though they do remind me how far I've come. Polyamory may work for some, but I've tried it and it doesn't work for me.
  

  A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
  ...enough money within her
  control to move out and
  rent a place of her own
  even if she never wants
  to or needs to. . .

  I personally think a woman should be living on her own anyway before she marries a guy, which means she naturally has money under her own control. I never want a guy to control me. Matt and I live as partners.
  

  A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
  ..something perfect to wear if
  the employer or date of her dreams
  wants to see her in an hour. . .

  Hell. If someone wants to see me within an hour they better be bleeding or dying. Otherwise, they can wait. I have other things to do besides be at people's beck and call.
  

  A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
  ..a youth she's content
  to leave behind...

  We all have a youth. I know this is probably one of those, "Don't regret not doing something when you're younger" types of things. I have no regrets about my youth. Matt, on the otherhand, tells me stories of plenty of things he regrets doing in his youth.
  

  A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
  . . .a past juicy enough that
  she's looking forward to
  retelling it in her old age. . .

  I already enjoy telling people about things I've done. But I certainly didn't do things simply so I can tell people about them. I do them because they're fun.
  

  A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
  . . .a set of screwdrivers, a
  cordless drill, and a black
  lace bra. . .

  I hate lace. It itches. Might as well be wearing a wool bra. Silk or cotton or nothing at all!
  

  A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
  . . .one friend who always makes
  her laugh... and one who lets
  her cry. . .

  I make myself laugh. I definitely can make myself cry.
  

  A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
  . . .a good piece of furniture
  not previously owned by anyone
  else in her family. . .

  Yeah, okay, if my mom would stop bequeathing me stuff not previously owned by anyone else in her family, maybe I'd have room.
  

  A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
  . . .eight matching plates, wine
  glasses with stems, and a recipe
  for a meal that will make her
  guests feel honored. . .

  I tried having wine glasses with stems. It was a useless venture as my cats promptly knocked them over and spilled grape juice (PURPLE GRAPE JUICE) all over my cream-colored carpet. I don't cook. I burn.
  

  A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
  . . .a feeling of control over
  her destiny. . .

  Some things you cannot control. You can do your best to steer yourself in the right direction though by avoiding crappy people and situations. But some people think they have the right to control other people, and in the end, you cannot force people to think about you in certain ways. They either do, or they don't.
  

  EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW. . .
  . . .how to fall in love without
  losing herself. . .

  That I agree with.
  

  EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
  . . .how to quit a job,
  break up with a lover,
  and confront a friend
  without ruining the friendship. . .

  And that too.
  

  EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW. . .
  . . . when to try harder. . . and
  when to walk away. . .

  And that.
  

  EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
  . . . that she can't change the
  length of her calves, the width
  of her hips, or the nature of her
  parents. . .

  No, you can change the length of your calves. You can change the width of your hips too. But it's true you cannot force people to think a certain way.

  And everything else, I agree with.
  

  EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
  . . . that her childhood may not
  have been perfect. . .but its
  over. . .

  EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW. . .
  . . .what she would and wouldn't
  do for love or more. . .

  EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW. . .
  . .how to live alone. . . even if
  she doesn't like it. . .

  EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW. . .
  . . .whom she can trust,
  whom she can't,
  and why she shouldn't
  take it personally. . .

  EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW. . .
  . . .where to go. . .
  be it to her best friend's kitchen table. . .
  or a charming inn in the woods. . .
  when her soul needs soothing. . .

  EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW. . .
  . . .what she can and can't
  accomplish in a day. . .
  a month. . .and a year. . .
  

  Best Wishes for 2004, folks!

  Matt and I are going to go partay now!

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